At the moment, Allison is getting a kick out of saying the word "butt".
"Look at my butt!"
"You can see my butt!"
"In the bathtub, I cleaned my butt!"
Seriously, it's like it's the funniest thing on the planet for this little girl. So, I sat her down and had a conversation about using the word "butt". I told her it was fine at home. She thinks it's funny, so I said she can talk about ~her~ butt all she wants. She can talk about my butt, daddy's butt and her sister's butt until she's blue in the face. But because it is one of her private places, we ~only~ talk about it at HOME. We don't talk about butts or vaginas or penis with our friends or with our teachers or with anyone else outside of just us. She seemed to understand and be completely okay with it. I'm sure she'll giggle and talk about it with her friends, but she knows it's not allowed. She knows if I catch her, she'll be in trouble.
And then she called Ella a "butthead". So I explained the difference between talking about a butt and calling someone a butt. So that's been established too. I'm sure there will be more talk about it, but at least we're starting the conversations.
This all got me thinking. What words do I ~not~ want her to say at all? What are the "bad words"? I've got the obvious ones down, but there are a few iffies.
~ Damn. (and all alternatives.) I didn't think this was bad, but thinking about it more than 2 seconds, I definitely don't want her saying it. Darn is the better choice.
~ Stupid. I never thought this was bad, but it's one of those words I wouldn't want her calling someone. So it'll be allowed, but not as a "name caller". In fact, I'm ~very against~ name calling in any negative way.
~ Jerk. I'm okay with it, Tom thinks it's borderline.
~ Retard. Totally ~not~ okay with it. In any manner. I think this is such a terrible thing to call someone and is completely offensive. This one entered my "no list" when we had a brush with a Downs Syndrome scare with the pregnancy with Allison. In doing all the research about Downs, I read how disrespectful it is to use. And I've noticed how often people use it. Ugh. It's just as bad as the "n word" if you ask me.
~ Moron. I don't think of this at all in the same category as "retard".
~ Cocksucker. Tom is okay with it. Me? Not so much.
~ Jesus/God/Jesus Christ used in any other form than speaking about the entity. Although we are not religious, we are respectful.
~ Poop. Tom thinks it's not bad, neither do I.
~ Crap. Tom thinks it's bad. I don't. But funny he thinks poop ~isn't~ a bad word. In fact, he just told me Crap and Shit are the same word. heh. He just compared poop, crap and shit to penis, dick and cock.
Any thoughts/comments? What are the borderline bad words for you?