Wednesday, June 18, 2008

Something that breaks my mommy heart.

At daycare, the kids are all split up in many different age groups. Allie was in the potty training room and Ella was in the post potty trained room. Allie's room consisted of around 2 to 3 years old but she started before she was two, since she had already been potty training. Ella's room has in general, 3-4 year olds, but they can start as young as 2 1/2, because it's the post potty training room.

Ella should have been moved up earlier, but I just ~love~ her teachers, I wasn't pushing the move. Space was tight, so I didn't mind her staying put. Now that space is opened, she moved up with a bunch of kids. Allie, on the other hand, moved up to what was Ella's room. She isn't quite 3 yet, but since there was space and Allie has been potty trained forever (I think she was totally potty trained by 2 or shortly thereafter), they made the move up.

Ella is doing fine, as she moved with a bunch of her friends. Not a problem there. But my shy little Allison moved up without the kids she's used to. She already knows the teachers so there is no issue there at all. But she just doesn't have a set group of friends yet. I dropped her off this morning and watched as they were playing outside. She just stood to the side of the playground all by herself. It just broke my heart.

Allie is a shy girl. It usually only lasts 10 or 15 minutes and then after that, she's talking up a storm and playing. And I hope this is what I was seeing - those 15 shy minutes. I need to talk to her teacher tonight to make sure.

Wow. I didn't realize how hard it would be to see something like that.

8 comments:

Morgan said...

All I could do was picture her in my head just standing there all alone, and it brought a tear to my eye and I've never met her. I can only imagine how it made mommy feel. I think that would be the best thing to do, talk to her teachers and make sure she adjusted well after you left...bless her little heart. :( If she doesn't, is there a way they can let her be back with the 'old' group she's familiar with?

My3sons said...

It is always hard to see your children left out, no matter the reason. I hope too that she warmed up shortly after you left.

Kaci said...

I bet she'll make friends in no time. I definitely hope you were just seeing that 15 minutes of shyness. :(

Meredith said...

I know exactly how you feel. Tyler is very shy and still usually plays by himself rather than with friends (he is getting better tho). It broke my heart everyday as well.

Poltzie said...

I love being a mommy but I know that moments like that are going to break my heart as well. I'm sure she's fine though and if not you are such a wonderful mom that she will be!

Sarah R said...

Aw, the poor thing! I can just envision her standing by herself. Hopefully one of the less shy kids walked up to her and talked to her. I'm sure she'll be fine!

Deb said...

so how is she doing now? have you talked to the teacher? has it all come together and she made friends? hope so - cause it broke my heart too.

Cece said...

My mom was obsessed with me having friends when I was a kid - and I was totally fine. I still hope that your little girl was only in the 15 minutes of shy time, though!