Wednesday, September 9, 2009

They wear you down.

My husband just said that to me in reference to the girls. "It's like they are giving you body blows all day, just wearing you down. Until nighttime comes and you just give up."

And that's how I feel too.

Having these two girls so close together was certainly a blessing. And a curse. Maybe it's the give and take. I was able to conceive both of them within 16 months of eachother and that was the give. The take is I get to deal with two little girls 16 months apart.

Is it just ~my~ girls who fight tooth and nail? Julie, what about E & C? Do they fight constantly?

Now, don't get me wrong, my kids are well behaved children in public. But at home when they are playing together, I have to break it up ALL the time. Ella's got the mouth and Allie's got the brute force. One of these days Allie is going to straight punch ella in the face. (And I won't blame her!)

14 comments:

Denise said...

I doubt it is just your girls. I would think any kids that close in age would fight a lot when spending a lot of time together.

It's funny, ours can't even talk yet and even though I'm only with them for at most 2.5 hours in the evenings, I'm EXHAUSTED by the time we put them down.

Elana Kahn said...

ROFL! That comment about Allie punching Ella cracked me up. Man I wish I had you for a mom.

Jenera said...

I think your husband put it perfectly. My two give me a run for my money. With Sam now being more mobile it is even worse

Rhonda said...

My boys are 18 months apart and fight all day long. They are super physical about it too. I'm talking head butts and full on wrestling. It's getting hard to explain all the black eyes....

Tara said...

My brother and I were 2 years apart and we almost killed each other many times. No really, we're both lucky to still be among the living.

I feel so bad for my mom now.

areyoukiddingme said...

I just have the one and she wears me down sometimes. They just have lots of energy and nowhere to put it.

Annette said...

My two are 24 months apart and fight all the time. I feel you on the being worn down by nighttime. I feel like I walk in to the circus when I get home every night.

Sarah R said...

Andrew is naughty just by himself, so I can't even imagine what it's going to be like when the new baby comes.

He isn't "naughty", so to speak, but he does act out when we go someplace. He also likes to run away and is super fast. Even at home, he won't sit and play with toys. He has to constantly be running....

Christie said...

you are not alone!! my 2 girls are also 16 months apart and OMG! the fighting that these 2 do and what its actually over amazes me every day! i stay home with them and its the same for me. on a bad day, i'm beaten to a bloody pulp by the time my husband comes home from work. they are angels in public or at a friends house. another family memembers house and forget it! but i'm constantly getting complimented on how well behaved they are and i can never quite figure out how they can be so good there and not at home as well. then again, i suppose i should be happy they don't act like that in public...jury is still out on that. =) my oldest is the quiet reader that prefers to be by herself. my 2nd is the physical one that i swear causes all the trouble because she hates quiet! she just started preschool and those days i count my blessings because for 2 hours 2 times a week, i've only got my 2 year old at home and its pure bliss! anyways, this was a very long winded way of saying that your not alone! i feel your pain. and its good to know i'm not alone either!!

Jules said...

The girls go through periods where they fight more than others. Of course, it's always worse when they are tired or hungry. They pick at each other more than anything and I just do not tolerate the tattling at all. Doesn't that drive you crazy? I try to get them to work it out on their own and not step in as much as I'm tempted to. Emma is bossy and Camryn will get physical if she gets mad. Not a good combo.

Jennifer said...

My friend's boys are 12 mos apart and they are best friends that fight all the time.

I just read a friend's blog about her girl's fighting constantly. She is such a good writer...I'm just going to copy her post over..


At what point will they realize they absolutely cannot navigate through this life without each other?

That point was definitely not today. They fought like a couple of crude irish vikings. And some of it was just plain laughable because all they did was recoil and sob like they had some sort of crying disorder.

Even as I write this they're still crying in their beds. Grace muttering something about "needing her space".

Ruby is sad because Grace won't let her drape her stinky toes all over her side of the bed (theirs are pushed together. Part of the problem? Perhaps).

Small problems, big drama. But isn't that everyone?

I am determined to show them how much they need each other and (should) love each other, just not sure how.

jenn said...

I am picturing them dressed as lucha libre wrestlers going at it... perhaps for halloween?

My sister & I were a little farther apart & we definitely got into it. Not so much physically as she was a preemie & always more delicate- but she knew how to push buttons- and yes- she did get smacked once or twice by me & she totally deserved it! We're best friends now & it got much better after puberty! ;o)

MrsSpock said...

The 5 of us (including 4 girls) were all born in a period of 6 years. We girls scrapped like cats all the time, and I have the scars to prove it.

Elizabeth W said...

How funny. I had two boys 15 months apart. They did fight tooth and nail. The youngest at 13 decided to become the exact opposite of his older brother. Sad because he was good at the things he gave up. Would I change it? Never. They are now 20 and 19. They are so close. Have been for most of their life, just those terrible teenage years. You will survive, but you won't remember most of it. True words about they just wear you down...you are taking body blows daily, but hey, at least your are there for them...good luck.