Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Boys and girls.

It's weird having a boy. I feel completely different about Karl than how I feel about my girls. I don't love any of them any less than one another, but ugh, I just can't explain it.

My mom had 3 boys before having a girl. When she had my sister, she noticed change in my dad. She said "Any man can be a father, but it takes a little girl to be a daddy".

And that's how I feel. When I tried to explain it to Tom, he just said that's how he feels about the girls.

It's funny actually. All men seem to want sons and all women seem to want daughters. And getting the opposite is really an eye opener. I thank God everyday to thank him for having a boy this time. I'd of never known if I had another girl.

Please don't be offended by this. If you only have girls or if you only have boys, I just can't explain the difference. And by NO means do I think women don't love their girls or Men don't love their boys any less. For ~me~, it's just different.

15 comments:

Kate said...

of course, i only have boys at the moment, but my personal theory on why men & women feel differently about having sons & daughters is bc we know our own sex too well. i'm not sure if i would dote on my boys in quite the same way if they were girls. i don't mean i'd love them less, but it's easier to blindly adore when you don't know all the wiles & ins-&-outs, so to speak, of being a boy. (or girl, as the case may be). although i must say, i'd love to have a little girl next!!! ;)

areyoukiddingme said...

There's just some kind of connection that girls have with their daddies. I saw it with my dad and me; I see it with my daughter and my husband, and my SILs and my FIL. With my husband and daughter, sometimes I know that it's totally them as a unit and me. I'd feel left out, except that I know how important the relationship is for a girl. I don't know so much about boys and their moms, because my husband and his mom fight as much as they do anything else. But, I know that I'd love to have a little boy to see if we had that connection.

Jennifer said...

I only have a girl and I love her just as much as I'd love a boy!!!!

j/k ;P

I always wanted a girl and now I wonder if I'd have those feelings if my next one is a boy. DH really wants a boy.

I guess we'll see...

I wonder if it is any different depending on which gender you have first. Hmmm... :)

Robin said...

I would love a son. Sigh

Lisa said...

I too only have boys and they are just so precious to me. They are my little men. I think a lot of it has to do with how much they remind me of their father. I hope one day I can have a little girl so I can compare.

mommybird said...

I know exactly what you mean. It's just a different feeling with my little man than what I have for my girls. I love them all exactly the same amount, I could never pick a favorite, but what I feel for Dylan just opened my eyes. I never thought I would like to have a boy, but now that I have one I couldn't have it any other way. I don't know if it's their gender or their personalities but Dylan is my cuddly boy, he loves to cuddle with mommy more than his sisters ever have.

Elana Kahn said...

Oh I totally know what you mean...except I always wanted to have a boy. I figured that I wanted to have at least one girl, but I wouldn't mind filling my house with boys. Dovid is my little man and he is just such a mama's boy. :-)

keanetwins said...

Our Mama says that she gets what you mean, except we are both girls. She says it would be odd to have a boy baby after two pink dress ones at once.

Odd, but fun, even if the widdle-on odds are higher!

xo

L+G

Kristin said...

I think that is why I always hoped I would have at least one girl. I adore all three of my boys but one little girl would have been nice.

Sarah R said...

I am glad I had my boy first. I just love it. I have enjoyed the mother/son bond so much, and I love having a mama's boy. My mother always said, "little boys ALWAYS love their mommies". ♥

With my girl (due in February), I look forward to shopping with her, teaching her to play the flute, and talking to her about boys. I look forward to seeing my husband look at her with love and protect her like a father protects his daughter. ♥

Jenera said...

I think I know what you mean. I only have boys but I would love to have a girl because I see a few mothers around me and their bond with their daughters. But then I think how cute my big 'ol hubby would be holding a tiny girl.

But as far as my connection with the boys it is so odd to know that I have these two little boys who depend on me and I can see it in their eyes. I wonder if a little girl would be the same or if she'd only have eyes for her daddy.

Christie said...

i could not agree with you more!! i have 3 girls and *just had my boy 10 days ago and the feelings i have for him are VERY different from the girls. perhaps because he was so wanted after nothing but pink for 5 years. its definetly undescribable and intense. it most definetly does not mean i love my little queens less, as you said...just different!

Nita said...

Hi Nancy, i so know what you mean. I have 2 amazing daughters- ages 17 and 15- then remarried and now have my boys, ages 4 and 9 months.- I love all of my children, but when I had Phillip (my 4 year old) he stole my heart. Eric is my 9 month old and he is starting to melt my heart already. It is so odd to me to feel this complete and overwhelming love for my boys.- not at all diminishing my love for my girls- it's just different. Every single day I say to my husband, "I just love that kid so much (referring to Philly).- ahh little boys:)
Have a great trip- so cool that you are able to meet up with a cyber friend!
Nita

Jamie said...

I know exactly how you feel. I have 3 kids also - girls ages 5.5 & almost 4 and a baby boy almost 10months. We didn't find out the sex of any of them before hand and I would have told you I would have been trilled with a 3rd girl. And I would have. But I can't even begin to put into words how much I love my little man (and like you said, it doesn't mean I love my girls any less)

Birdee said...

I get this post.
There is something inside me that wants a little girl, of course mose all women do, right?
But I am so crazy about my boys.
I want one more and I (feeling guilty admitting this) want another boy.
Oh and they are so protective over their mommies. It's the cutest damn thing.
I know that I wont know the difference unless I do have a little girl, and I know it will be different than what I can imagine, but I'm just being honest when I say I want one more son.
But I'd like 2 little girls too. Thanks to you and your beautiful girls and the relationship you have with them =D I am a bit envious.